SISTAHS: Can We Talk? How do you handle it when 'friends' cut you off?
No phone calls, no contact. Everything seems to come to an abrupt halt. Do you call them? Or do you make the decision to wait until they call you? We need to hear from you!
Sometimes I wanted to call because you never know what a Sista is going through....but then again friends are suppose to be able to connect and work problems out....oh well, with friends like that I don`t need enemies!
I keep it moving because sometimes it best. Iam known for that because when you and that person is now on a different level it can't work. If I stop partying and she hasn't she going to sway elsewhere. I will still love her and will always be there friend but I feel we can't hand in the same circle. I'm trying to live for Jesus and she's living out in the world its not going to combine. So like I say sometimes its best.
I believe it all depends on the circumstances..Sometimes it’s not personal towards you at all, but a major change that may be accruing with the other person… sometimes separation needs to occur for various reasons, we know the answers sometimes and sometimes we do not. I think to try and pre judge the situation is a waste of time if the friendship is meant to be it will be restored and if not you must keep moving without any harsh or ill feelings towards the other person after all some are in our lives only for a season and some are in our lives forever. No matter what still love !
I truly believe that people are in your life for a season, and when that time is over it is what it is. Then there are the times when people fade out without any explanation and gave no notice. We realize certain characteristics about these friends the entire time that their in our circle, but as a friend we accept them and their sometimes unusual antics. But there comes a time of change in your life and these are the times when God steps in and does the separating,because we don't have sense enough to step away. Don't get me wrong now, its not that we think that we are at a place of such elevation where we figure we don't need people, its just that in a time of promotion, through God, there are certain things that you just can no longer tolerate. There's a separation that occurs regarding mind and spirit, but it is a separation of love. When there is a spiritual promotion taking place, you can't take everybody with you. Therefore, we should look at the 'cut-off' as something that must happen and it's nothing that you did or said, but something that must take place. When you see them, it should always be an atmosphere of love and understanding. I have learned to stop trying to look into things and conducting my own investigation and picking things apart. But rather to look to the Lord for answers and understanding and realizing that He puts everything in divine order. I too will still show love! Peace and Blessings GodsChick
Via Michelle Mott~ Jonette, we allow people into our lives - some for a reason, some for a season, some for a lifetime; and we learn and grow, remember and appreciate, hurt and move on. It's really hard when you are at your lowest and people misuse the word... "friend" or "family" when you really don't need them. They tend to become invisible and out of existence when they think you may need something tangible other than talking your personal business. This year has been a real eye opener for me and i have deleted a lot of numbers including F-A-M-I-L-Y. I handle it by keep on keeping on, because the best is yet to come.
Sis so true..."They tend to become invisible and out of existence when they think you may need something tangible other than talking your personal business. This year has been a real eye opener for me and i have deleted a lot of numbers including F-A-M-I-L-Y. I handle it by keep on keeping on, because the best is yet to come. "
Sometimes the most valuable lessons come from those closet to us..I have stepped back, observed more, and stayed quiet..God has the last say so....
Twinkle, I so agree. I have learned to step back and watch God. For truly when He handles the matter its a done deal! Without Him, I could not achieve the peace that I have about a whole lot things, and for that I am so grateful. Being quiet has been my motto all year, and sistuh let me tell you,I have come into a knowledge like no other, and its straight from the Lord. We will continue to love and live life the way that God planned it. Thank you my SISTUH for sharing!
hi sis jonette ... i call and talk about current issues ... then i say i hadnt heard from you in a while are you ok? many times the friendhip gets back on track .. sometimes as sis bronzehair said a person my be going thru .. im hoping if a person doesnt see me in a while check on me ... sometimes its not always easy to reach out when your hurting or have something pressing .. lov you all God Bless
Sis. Valerie, that is so very true. I usually act immediately when someone crosses my mind and I realize that I haven't heard from them or haven't seen them in a long time. Sometimes current situtations cause people to shut down and shut others out. And you know the enemy preys on your mind and gets into your thoughts when you're at a low point. I'm with you sis, I hope and pray that others will think of me as well and check on me, because truly, we need each other. But, I can say that Thanks be to God, I have people that will do just that! God knows just who to link you up with who will pour positive nuggets into your spirit. In my morning devotion names just pop up in my spirit and I call them out to God to bless in whatever way thats needed, individually and collectively. Yes, we are our brothers/sisters keeper, and its commissioned unto us to lift them up, no matter how they act towards us. Love you too sis, and all of my SISTUHS for you response on our subject. Stay tuned for more.....
Sometimes I wanted to call because you never know what a Sista is going through....but then again friends are suppose to be able to connect and work problems out....oh well, with friends like that I don`t need enemies!
ReplyDeleteI keep it moving because sometimes it best. Iam known for that because when you and that person is now on a different level it can't work. If I stop partying and she hasn't she going to sway elsewhere. I will still love her and will always be there friend but I feel we can't hand in the same circle. I'm trying to live for Jesus and she's living out in the world its not going to combine. So like I say sometimes its best.
ReplyDeleteI believe it all depends on the circumstances..Sometimes it’s not personal towards you at all, but a major change that may be accruing with the other person… sometimes separation needs to occur for various reasons, we know the answers sometimes and sometimes we do not. I think to try and pre judge the situation is a waste of time if the friendship is meant to be it will be restored and if not you must keep moving without any harsh or ill feelings towards the other person after all some are in our lives only for a season and some are in our lives forever. No matter what still love !
ReplyDeletePam Lane aka Twinkle
I truly believe that people are in your life for a season, and when that time is over it is what it is. Then there are the times when people fade out without any explanation and gave no notice. We realize certain characteristics about these friends the entire time that their in our circle, but as a friend we accept them and their sometimes unusual antics. But there comes a time of change in your life and these are the times when God steps in and does the separating,because we don't have sense enough to step away. Don't get me wrong now, its not that we think that we are at a place of such elevation where we figure we don't need people, its just that in a time of promotion, through God, there are certain things that you just can no longer tolerate. There's a separation that occurs regarding mind and spirit, but it is a separation of love. When there is a spiritual promotion taking place, you can't take everybody with you. Therefore, we should look at the 'cut-off' as something that must happen and it's nothing that you did or said, but something that must take place. When you see them, it should always be an atmosphere of love and understanding. I have learned to stop trying to look into things and conducting my own investigation and picking things apart. But rather to look to the Lord for answers and understanding and realizing that He puts everything in divine order. I too will still show love!
ReplyDeletePeace and Blessings
GodsChick
Via Michelle Mott~ Jonette, we allow people into our lives - some for a reason, some for a season, some for a lifetime; and we learn and grow, remember and appreciate, hurt and move on. It's really hard when you are at your lowest and people misuse the word... "friend" or "family" when you really don't need them. They tend to become invisible and out of existence when they think you may need something tangible other than talking your personal business. This year has been a real eye opener for me and i have deleted a lot of numbers including F-A-M-I-L-Y. I handle it by keep on keeping on, because the best is yet to come.
ReplyDeleteSis so true..."They tend to become invisible and out of existence when they think you may need something tangible other than talking your personal business. This year has been a real eye opener for me and i have deleted a lot of numbers including F-A-M-I-L-Y. I handle it by keep on keeping on, because the best is yet to come. "
ReplyDeleteSometimes the most valuable lessons come from those closet to us..I have stepped back, observed more, and stayed quiet..God has the last say so....
Twinkle, I so agree. I have learned to step back and watch God. For truly when He handles the matter its a done deal! Without Him, I could not achieve the peace that I have about a whole lot things, and for that I am so grateful. Being quiet has been my motto all year, and sistuh let me tell you,I have come into a knowledge like no other, and its straight from the Lord. We will continue to love and live life the way that God planned it. Thank you my SISTUH for sharing!
ReplyDeletePeace and Blessings,
GodsChick
hi sis jonette ... i call and talk about current issues ... then i say i hadnt heard from you in a while are you ok? many times the friendhip gets back on track .. sometimes as sis bronzehair said a person my be going thru .. im hoping if a person doesnt see me in a while check on me ... sometimes its not always easy to reach out when your hurting or have something pressing .. lov you all God Bless
ReplyDeleteSis. Valerie, that is so very true. I usually act immediately when someone crosses my mind and I realize that I haven't heard from them or haven't seen them in a long time. Sometimes current situtations cause people to shut down and shut others out. And you know the enemy preys on your mind and gets into your thoughts when you're at a low point. I'm with you sis, I hope and pray that others will think of me as well and check on me, because truly, we need each other. But, I can say that Thanks be to God, I have people that will do just that! God knows just who to link you up with who will pour positive nuggets into your spirit. In my morning devotion names just pop up in my spirit and I call them out to God to bless in whatever way thats needed, individually and collectively. Yes, we are our brothers/sisters keeper, and its commissioned unto us to lift them up, no matter how they act towards us. Love you too sis, and all of my SISTUHS for you response on our subject. Stay tuned for more.....
ReplyDeletePeace and Blessings,
GodsChick