i was fortunate to have witnessed my mom forgive and forget many times as a young girl .. as an adult it is easy for me to forgive&forget .. i will admit that sometimes i feel like the person got over .. but when i think of Christ and how forgiving he was, i know im on the right track with this .. BIG thx to mommy for showing me a form of love F&F ... Valerie McGert aka Destinlovz
When I think about how God has forgiven me and loves me unconditionally I have no choice but to forgive. Now forgetting, sometimes that's the hard part.If you've been hurt or wronged by an individual to me it seems logical not to forget the... circumstances so they wont have an opportunity to do it again. But then again that's not always the case. In other cases forgiving and forgetting is easy because alot of times people don't even realize that they hurt someone and in other situations they just don't know any better. Holding a grudge takes to much time and energy... *Loving new life*
Hi Valerie aka Destinlovz... What a blessing to have such a positive upbringing and one that you can benefit from today! I thank God for that same home training, but as an adult I had to learn all over again to forgive and more importantly forget. I used to even have a motto: 'I forgive, but I don't forget'. Cute, but not healthy. You are so right, it's not easy, but when we take the time to evaluate the situation and think about how God would want us to handle it, the task, again, becomes easier. I truly believe that the longer we hold onto things, and harbor ill feelings the sicker we cause ourselves to be. It's detrimental to our spiritual and mental health. It's refreshing to me to see someone who I may have had an issue with in the past, greet them and really mean it. They may not feel so good about it and may not even return the salutation, but I feel good about it. I am free. The bible states that,' How can you love God whom you have never seen, and hate your neighbor who you see everyday'? That alone is so profound and something to really think about. Thanks again my SISTUH for your input! Peace and Blessings GodsChick
Hello my sisters, Well this not to long happen to me. Someone with a fake name befriend and then they inbox and told me I was ugly,I came from trash,I was all type of names I won't say and the more they kept talking I realize this had to be a close family member to know all this information about me. They inbox me from 9am until 2pm all types of hurtful degrading things. While they talk and how they talk I knew who it was. I was very,very hurt because I love this person like a little sister and ihad no idea she felt that way about me. I notice a change in her for the last yr but I said to myself that's her moody ways. As time went on I would cry and then I got angry and I prayed and ask God to please help me because I didn't want to whole malce in my heart. I forgave and forgot because it was the Jesus in me. To this day she doesn't know I know she was the one and I treat her with kindness. God said he will make your enemy your footstool. I am so glad God change my life.
tonyasimmo, its so amazing how people that really admire you will rather see you hurt and will make attempts to destroy your character, than to give you positive feedback or compliment you for the woman you are. I too have experienced something very similiar to this. But in the midst of it all God allowed you to recognize and identify. How awesome is that! He heard your cry! Don't you just love it when the Lord gives you perfect peace in the midst of it all! Yes, we must forgive, forget and move on. Continue to keep the very ones that make attempts against in prayer. They need us in ways that they can't even imagine. Thank you SISTAH for sharing! Peace and Blessings! GodsChick
hello jonette and my fellow sistuhs ..
ReplyDeletei was fortunate to have witnessed my mom forgive and forget many times as a young girl ..
as an adult it is easy for me to forgive&forget .. i will admit that sometimes i feel like the person got over .. but when i think of Christ and how forgiving he was, i know im on the right track with this .. BIG thx to mommy for showing me a form of love F&F ...
Valerie McGert aka Destinlovz
When I think about how God has forgiven me and loves me unconditionally I have no choice but to forgive. Now forgetting, sometimes that's the hard part.If you've been hurt or wronged by an individual to me it seems logical not to forget the... circumstances so they wont have an opportunity to do it again. But then again that's not always the case. In other cases forgiving and forgetting is easy because alot of times people don't even realize that they hurt someone and in other situations they just don't know any better. Holding a grudge takes to much time and energy...
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Hi Valerie aka Destinlovz...
ReplyDeleteWhat a blessing to have such a positive upbringing and one that you can benefit from today! I thank God for that same home training, but as an adult I had to learn all over again to forgive and more importantly forget. I used to even have a motto: 'I forgive, but I don't forget'. Cute, but not healthy. You are so right, it's not easy, but when we take the time to evaluate the situation and think about how God would want us to handle it, the task, again, becomes easier. I truly believe that the longer we hold onto things, and harbor ill feelings the sicker we cause ourselves to be. It's detrimental to our spiritual and mental health. It's refreshing to me to see someone who I may have had an issue with in the past, greet them and really mean it. They may not feel so good about it and may not even return the salutation, but I feel good about it. I am free. The bible states that,' How can you love God whom you have never seen, and hate your neighbor who you see everyday'? That alone is so profound and something to really think about. Thanks again my SISTUH for your input! Peace and Blessings
GodsChick
Hello my sisters,
ReplyDeleteWell this not to long happen to me. Someone with a fake name befriend and then they inbox and told me I was ugly,I came from trash,I was all type of names I won't say and the more they kept talking I realize this had to be a close family member to know all this information about me. They inbox me from 9am until 2pm all types of hurtful degrading things. While they talk and how they talk I knew who it was. I was very,very hurt because I love this person like a little sister and ihad no idea she felt that way about me. I notice a change in her for the last yr but I said to myself that's her moody ways. As time went on I would cry and then I got angry and I prayed and ask God to please help me because I didn't want to whole malce in my heart. I forgave and forgot because it was the Jesus in me. To this day she doesn't know I know she was the one and I treat her with kindness. God said he will make your enemy your footstool. I am so glad God change my life.
tonyasimmo, its so amazing how people that really admire you will rather see you hurt and will make attempts to destroy your character, than to give you positive feedback or compliment you for the woman you are. I too have experienced something very similiar to this. But in the midst of it all God allowed you to recognize and identify. How awesome is that! He heard your cry! Don't you just love it when the Lord gives you perfect peace in the midst of it all! Yes, we must forgive, forget and move on. Continue to keep the very ones that make attempts against in prayer. They need us in ways that they can't even imagine. Thank you SISTAH for sharing!
ReplyDeletePeace and Blessings! GodsChick